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I understand where you are coming from, as I've often had trouble with the issue of giving. My trick was to give and give and give until I couldn't take it anymore and then go postal. That wasn't a really clever plan. My new clever plan is to be in a relationship with someone who does not need me to give a huge amount and is content to give to me sometimes too. Although I will admit that I came to a point before I got together with Joel where I was comfortable with being selfish about needing time and space for me. That didn't make many/any of my partners happy, but for me it was good to reach that place. Now I'm much more content to state what I want or need and it seems to work.