It is possible that the Who have it right
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serindeToday is my grandma's 87th birthday. I'm checking with Mom to make sure that her (Grandma's, I mean) mental state is such that I can call to give her birthday wishes. (I haven't updated much about this--suffice to say that she really hasn't gotten any better, from what Mom says; there are days or hours or whatever when she is in tune with reality, and then there is the rest of the time.) Meantime, I've spent the entire morning baking cookies, which I've just realized is partially a response to this particular back-brain woe. I have made all the kolatchy in the universe.
The course of these unfortunate family matters learned me some things I didn't know; e.g., her father, my great-grandfather--who I never knew; he died about four months after I was born--got the same way at the end of his life. He was staying with Grandma and Grandpa, and none of Grandma's siblings were helping out in any way[1], and she finally put him in a nursing home because they couldn't cope by themselves any more; and he died a few weeks after that. Mom says that Grandma was carrying a fair bit of resentment about it all these years, and she thinks some of it is redirected guilt, and she wonders if some of the paranoiac issues Grandma is experiencing now (which are primarily about $THEM doing $THINGS to her/Mom/me and![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-userinfo.gif)
shechameleon/etc.) is refracted from that business. I don't know, they have highly paid shrinks for this stuff, but it seems plausible and it makes me wonder what will happen to me someday? I don't want to find out, I really don't. Mom's got the same worries--Is This My Future? Please God, No.
[1] disclaimer: this is her version, and if there are any other sides to the story I wot not of them. I have no doubt it looks different to my great-aunts & uncles.
The course of these unfortunate family matters learned me some things I didn't know; e.g., her father, my great-grandfather--who I never knew; he died about four months after I was born--got the same way at the end of his life. He was staying with Grandma and Grandpa, and none of Grandma's siblings were helping out in any way[1], and she finally put him in a nursing home because they couldn't cope by themselves any more; and he died a few weeks after that. Mom says that Grandma was carrying a fair bit of resentment about it all these years, and she thinks some of it is redirected guilt, and she wonders if some of the paranoiac issues Grandma is experiencing now (which are primarily about $THEM doing $THINGS to her/Mom/me and
shechameleon/etc.) is refracted from that business. I don't know, they have highly paid shrinks for this stuff, but it seems plausible and it makes me wonder what will happen to me someday? I don't want to find out, I really don't. Mom's got the same worries--Is This My Future? Please God, No.[1] disclaimer: this is her version, and if there are any other sides to the story I wot not of them. I have no doubt it looks different to my great-aunts & uncles.
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Date: 2007-12-24 11:25 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2007-12-25 02:50 am (UTC)Hope the rest of your vacation is as good as it can be...
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Date: 2007-12-26 02:52 pm (UTC)Read my LJ for my own emo-producing family health issues! :-p Sux.
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Date: 2007-12-26 09:07 pm (UTC)Hey, you going to Birka? Beth and I were talking about it, though we are both travelling the weekend before as well, and won't that be a treat.
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Date: 2007-12-26 09:17 pm (UTC)