state of the grandma

[serinde]

No real change. She's still varying in and out of paranoia about people trying to kill her, and talking to people who aren't there, and forgetting people who WERE there, and so on. And ranting and threatening. This isn't my grandma. Where's my grandma and can't I please have her back?

More pertinently: The medicoes have ruled out stroke (MRI shows no evidence), other brain trauma (MRI and CAT scan), UTI (well...they say they had, but Mom hasn't actually seen them take a sample, so she's not sure how they know), and the one of her meds that could potentially have mental effects. She does have "some pneumonia" and "a nodule in her other lung", which none of us has a notion what that even means, but presume it's not related to mental foo or else, well, they wouldn't still be not having an answer. The hospital is now moving her to a nursing home, and has requested Mom to choose one.

I asked Mom again if she wanted me to come home & rally 'round the flag, but so far she still says not.

Comments

[nancaurelia.livejournal.com]

I'm sorry. Do you need anything? I've been there. Although my mother's similar issues were fixed with medication, because there was a specific cause.

[sweh.livejournal.com]

I'm so sorry lady.

This sounds very similar to the path my gran took. The last time my Dad went to see her I went for moral support. Her mind was lost in space and time; she variously failed to recognise people, mis-recognised people, forgot people were there, thought it was 40-odd years earlier...

It broke my Dad's heart to see her like that. That's when he essentially decided that his mother had died and it was just her body that was left.

None of this will be of any help or consolation to you, except to tell you that I _know_ what you're going through.

So so sorry, lady.

I love you!

[naudia.livejournal.com]

*washes you with lots and lots of love and understanding* My grandmother is going down this path as well. Having met your very sweet and unimposing grandmother, it's awful to think of her this way. I'm very surprised to hear that they have not acted on this "some pneumonia, and nodule in her other lung), even if they think it has nothing to do with her current state of mind. Please let me know if you need anything. Love, nights up with wine and conversation, space, for me to take over the general care of things for a while, whatever.